‘Recognising my positive qualities’Posted: October 3, 2011
My counsellor is trying to help me feel better about myself through the medium of worksheet. She’s a fan of a worksheet. This week’s homework: look at this long list of positive character traits, circle the ones that apply to you and pin it up in a prominent place, to remind yourself how marvellous you are.
OK. I can do this.
Able, accepting, affectionate, candid, conscientious, creative, determined, empathetic… All circled happily, all the way down to persistent, polite, punctual and reliable. (Hmmm. I think there’s a sheet missing. Personality traits don’t stop at the letter ‘r’. What about serious, or silly, or… I don’t know, sibilant?)
Look at all those circles! Aren’t I a fab person?!
But then – look at all the words I haven’t circled. Adapatable, adventurous, assertive, cautious, clear-thinking, confident – all the way down to patient, positive, quiet, rational and relaxed. Look at all the things I’m not!
And then look again at the words I’ve circled. If you had to come up with a collective noun for them – a murder of crows, an ostentation of peacocks – they are a ‘nice of D’. Ugh. I am nice. I am not adventurous, or energetic, or dynamic, or free, or happy. I am… pleasant. Neutral. Passive. Forgettable.
I’m not sure my counsellor imagined I’d use my ‘Recognising my positive qualities’ worksheet to beat myself up with. I don’t think I’m doing this properly…